SAD!!!

So many men are insensitive to their women's needs, society has made a woman become so hard, harder than she needs to be gradually loosing the soft side, the sweet soft smiley happy gentle wifely side, the one she most likely had as a bride.

Yes Women have become so hard for those who are to protect them have left them to the wind! The wind oh so strong has made them cold.

Are you that man?
Are you that woman?

Remember there is always a better way...
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A POEM IN HONOUR OF MY SECOND MUM ON HER BIRTHDAY

MAMA...

The eloquence of your speech shows you are not common
The ease of your smile, so endearing
The carriage of your walk exudes grace and courage

The touch of a lasting woman from the foundations of the earth goes beyond her ability to affect only her immediate family instead her subtle touch is felt in many homes even without her physical presence. A woman like you must be given credit for standing by a man like papa and your lovely children, for your touch has been felt and will continue to be felt in many homes and generations to come through them.

God knew you would understand the importance of presenting a well baked cake that he himself spent a lot of time baking you in the oven so you could turn out as dark and beautiful as ebony... As sweet as a freshly baked chocolate cake.
And so how do I describe you? Have you seen a woman stand so tall amongst others even though she really is about 5 feet and a bit? Like the former Mercedes benz slogan goes 'unlike any other' Mama its easy to say in so many ways that when you stand amongst women you are 'unlike any other' so I am not surprised that you now own a mercedes benz and in some ways I am sure the giver is simply saying with due respect if I may ... COMFORT JUMAI ADESOYE 'unlike any other'

How is it possible that a woman can still look so good and pleasant after several late nights of hard work just as the proverbial noble woman is described in the scriptures? For indeed your lamp stays up till late just so you can put a smile on people' s faces in the morning. Your value is by far more than rubies.

How do I describe you? Well for one you are terrifying which isn't a bad thing I beg to differ because even your father in heaven sees you as a terror to the kingdom of darkness. The kingdom of darkness trembles before your very feet.
Again how do I describe you? 'Diamonds are forever' says one of the theme songs for the popular 007 movie. Several jewellers remain in the market of diamonds far and wide but if I were to decide what cut you would be I would say you are a swarovski cut diamond... Precise ! Distinct ! Perfection!

They say roses are red violets are blue
I say roses are you for your fragrance is ever so fresh. Roses are not without its thorns, your thorns do prick ever so gently.

Sometimes I feel the little red dot at the tip of your tongue is like your thorn that pricked you as a warning to many for if a woman like you is hurt and treated without respect, your spoken words would be backed by heaven itself because of how precious you are however dangerous the words may be. So the pricked tongue is a reminder to us all that your words carry so much power...

Purple must be your favourite colour. Royalty is who you are. It is unquestionable. The pricked tongue says it all.

who says you can't be a woman of 3 and still remain classy and stylish. Your every outfit portrays you as a strong woman. I wonder who does your shopping?

They say a woman builds her home with her hands. Take a look at yours for you have built a home enviable by many.

In this hot and humid weather, a dog is no longer man's best friend instead clean cool water simply because of its rejuvenating nature especially when dehydration sets in.
You are similar to this clean cool water... So refreshing that papa would have to drink a lot of you to keep himself rejuvenated.

It's your birthday, how old are you again? Age is but a number, but if age were equivalent to wisdom then I would say happy 57th birthday Mama and if looks were equivalent to age then I would say happy 35th birthday Mama

I celebrate you with these few words and I hope they have kissed your delicate skin and made you feel warm because you truly are an exceptional woman to behold

Happy birthday Mama from a daughter who adores you!
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The Positive Side of Fear

I have seen FEAR defined as false evidence appearing real, in reference to fear being a negative attribute when placed side by side to the idea of ‘FAITH’. I do not doubt this in anyway but I want us to look at the positive side of fear in one tiny example and I hope you would follow me diligently.

 Fear according to the dictionary has been defined as ‘a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain etc whether the threat is real or imagined’. I don’t want to agree with the majority of people who believe fear is negative.

 I believe fear can be negative and it can be positive it all depends on how you apply it. I mean most religions talk about a fear i.e. a reverential awe especially towards God so fear shouldn’t be deemed negative per say.

If we are honest with ourselves we would appreciate the fact that fear is an instinct that is inherent in us as humans but hasn’t been harnessed in the right way and we have not allowed it guide us in the positive light. Most times fear has guided us in the negative light which is why generally fear is looked at as a negative state and not the other way round. In fact I know of a set of people that are so certain fear is negative that they would rather not use the word ‘fear’ but feel more comfortable using other synonyms of ‘fear’ so they don’t come across as exhibiting a lack of faith i.e. uneasy, concerned, panic, phobia, distress, dread, anxious, shock etc.

Ok so you ask me what the positive side of fear is.

Now let’s look closely at the definition one more time... ‘a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain etc whether the threat is real or imagined’. The active part in play in this definition which causes fear to arise in YOU is an impending danger, evil, or pain. This means at the point before fear arises, you have been notified of a threat to harm you irrespective of the fact that it could be real or imagined.

Now let’s talk on the imagined threat. The fact that the notification you are working with could be imagined and I stand corrected means it is either of two things

 1. That the notification is from your spirit and the simplest way I can explain ‘from your spirit’ especially if you are not a Christian is that you just know that you know that you know (×100 %) that danger is approaching and so this kind of imagined threat translates to a real threat because everything which happens in the physical has either been dealt with or left unaddressed in the spiritual. This is because we are spirit beings whether you accept it or not. Ok so let’s drop church for a bit! Lol.

2. That the notification you are working with comes from other sources that are questionable.  Now, because of its questionable nature you find that generally people walk themselves into a very deep box with a ladder being provided to climb out from the box but ironically the fear has so blinded their eyes that they don’t see the ladder. They therefore remain in the box for a very long time and become limited from exploring what is outside of the box. I guess this is where the acronym FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL (F.E.A.R) comes into play. This is where to talk faith but for now I don’t want to talk about Nos. 2 but on Nos.1 which is more certain in the sense that harm is really going to come to you.

Many times we are faced with situations in our homes, offices, with friends and relations. We may be lured to act in a certain way or do a wrong in the hidden because we are not being watched. Excuses can be given or justifications may have already been provided to serve as evidence if eventually the wrong is uncovered. But I beg to say that warning signals of an impending danger, evil or pain which may occur if you decide to be lured are made available to each of us at every given time if we are truly observant.  The warning signals are wrapped up in the emotion of fear, if you like you may call it that ‘inner caution’ but it is fear all the same.  The threat at this point may not be real but it is imagined and if it falls under Nos.1 then you can take it to the bank because you will know that you know that you know (×100%) that harm will come your way if you don’t allow fear to guide you in the positive light.

So Let us now look at the example of a fire.  Fire has its good side and has its bad side. Fire burns no doubt but fire also refines. While the refiner is pleased to put a piece of metal into fire to refine it, the refiner will be the first to run away from the fire if he calculates that an explosion is about to take place which would burn his dear skin. This is because fire is not meant for the skin. It will burn...fire burns and it will disfigure you! Ok so you are in a situation where you have been given information from your spirit that an impending danger is approaching and your spirit tells you it is one that would burn you and fear rises in you. Do you run or do you talk faith?

The positive side of fear says run....

...there is always a better way

write...

Vision is to be written down so anyone who reads it can run with it including the writer when he eventually forgets. You can translate this principle to a 'to do' list. Most times we have things we intend to finalise for the day, month or year but we fail to achieve them because they are not written down.

When you write thoughts down you easily see the flaws in them. Assessing your motives /rationale behind your thoughts is one thing a pen and paper would do for you.


 Write those thoughts down !NOW...

...there is always a better way to do what you think you have become a master of

Just my thots for this present minute!

Strive to be better than you were yesterday!

Remember people are drawn towards genuine love and affection. Even the most stubborn person in the world has someone he or she listens to. Ask why?

All bosses require much more from their subordinates than they are willing to pay for and most times they get it. Either way be indispensable so you can at least negotiate a better pay when the need arises.

No matter how hard you strive to please a boss they want more! more! more! It is called the Oliver syndrome by my humble self

Wives please don't give yourself a justified reason not to take care of yourself. Remember your husband is more of a physical being than you are, emmm so please look good. You will thank me some day!

Men are drawn to confident women who equally know when to be silent and yet maintain their stand.

No man wants a woman who cant think for herself. Have a mind of your own O WOMAN! however the trick is to know when to be either aggressive, assertive or submissive!.

Have you ever considered the fact that once you don't talk as much you are perceived as smart! Lesson No 1 to one who has my kind of temperament.

All you bring out of yourself is what has already been deposited be it consciously or otherwise. Now the question is who did the depositing?

Never mistake one's silence to mean a particular thing for people keep silent for various reasons e.g 'I have nothing to say actually', ' I think my breath is funny right at this moment', 'hmmm...if only he/she knew', 'I like the way he talks...I have no clue what he is saying but he sure sounds good'

However you look at it Family comes first. You may affect the lives of the people of the world but if you cant touch the lives of those closest to you then...I stand corrected.

Looking and smelling good isn't as expensive as you think! Choose to and you would find cheaper ways to achieve your goal.

The moment you no longer find fulfilment in what you do, something is definitely wrong. Cheer up! you can fix it still. For example, if it is your job quit!ha ha ha just kidding. All I know is you can either quit and move somewhere else where you can find expression or you remain and stay miserable while you constantly complain. It is your choice after all. Nevertheless if you decide to stay you can still find fulfilment if you change your perspective. So how do you now see your job?

Now the immediate preceding statement I made is not in reference to Marriage. No quiting at all....Both of you should work it out. Note I said 'should' and not 'must' and this is because it takes two to tango! You feel me?

Yes I said it ... I am pleased to be ME. ARE YOU?

...there is always a better way

Words=YOU

Your words are YOU. YOU and your words are one. Let your words be true that people may take it to the bank.

Especially to your loved ones, let your words be true, yes they have no choice but to love you irrespective but your words may start to mean nothing to them. Trust is earned, your words are YOU!
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What to do when you don't know what to do

Ok! So what do you do in a confusing situation? Most times irrational actions are done and believe me it never turns out to be good. I am of the opinion that in the above situation all you should do is stand still, be calm,observe carefully and clarity would swoop upon you.

Ok! So what do you then do in a scary situation? Most times doubt is the first thing that comes out of our mouths, but the truth is the moment we speak positively and speak faith, fear has no other option but to leave.

Right! So what do you in a terrifying situation? Look at the scary situation....

Emmm ...what do you do in a situation of lack? It is simple.. GIVE!. Giving is the key to receiving. You may think you don't have anything to give but that is because you have refused to see what you have as a seed. So my point is no matter how in lack you think you are in, you will always have seed in your hands to sow into fertile ground and it is only a matter of time....roses will bloom again.


So what do then do in a challenging situation? Draw on the strength you have from within and from above. Allow genuine friends and family show you love and attention 'cos God knows you will need every bit of it.

So what do you do in a tiring situation? Sleep!

But what if I don't want to sleep?... Then you are on your own.

...there is always a better way