Monday, 18 June 2012

The Positive Side of Fear



I have seen FEAR defined as false evidence appearing real, in reference to fear being a negative attribute when placed side by side to the idea of ‘FAITH’. I do not doubt this in anyway but I want us to look at the positive side of fear in one tiny example and I hope you would follow me diligently.


 Fear according to the dictionary has been defined as ‘a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain etc whether the threat is real or imagined’. I don’t want to agree with the majority of people who believe fear is negative.

 I believe fear can be negative and it can be positive it all depends on how you apply it. I mean most religions talk about a fear i.e. a reverential awe especially towards God so fear shouldn’t be deemed negative per say.

If we are honest with ourselves we would appreciate the fact that fear is an instinct that is inherent in us as humans but hasn’t been harnessed in the right way and we have not allowed it guide us in the positive light. Most times fear has guided us in the negative light which is why generally fear is looked at as a negative state and not the other way round. In fact I know of a set of people that are so certain fear is negative that they would rather not use the word ‘fear’ but feel more comfortable using other synonyms of ‘fear’ so they don’t come across as exhibiting a lack of faith i.e. uneasy, concerned, panic, phobia, distress, dread, anxious, shock etc.

Ok so you ask me what the positive side of fear is.

Now let’s look closely at the definition one more time... ‘a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain etc whether the threat is real or imagined’. The active part in play in this definition which causes fear to arise in YOU is an impending danger, evil, or pain. This means at the point before fear arises, you have been notified of a threat to harm you irrespective of the fact that it could be real or imagined.

Now let’s talk on the imagined threat. The fact that the notification you are working with could be imagined and I stand corrected means it is either of two things

 1. That the notification is from your spirit and the simplest way I can explain ‘from your spirit’ especially if you are not a Christian is that you just know that you know that you know (×100 %) that danger is approaching and so this kind of imagined threat translates to a real threat because everything which happens in the physical has either been dealt with or left unaddressed in the spiritual. This is because we are spirit beings whether you accept it or not. Ok so let’s drop church for a bit! Lol.

2. That the notification you are working with comes from other sources that are questionable.  Now, because of its questionable nature you find that generally people walk themselves into a very deep box with a ladder being provided to climb out from the box but ironically the fear has so blinded their eyes that they don’t see the ladder. They therefore remain in the box for a very long time and become limited from exploring what is outside of the box. I guess this is where the acronym FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL (F.E.A.R) comes into play. This is where to talk faith but for now I don’t want to talk about Nos. 2 but on Nos.1 which is more certain in the sense that harm is really going to come to you.

Many times we are faced with situations in our homes, offices, with friends and relations. We may be lured to act in a certain way or do a wrong in the hidden because we are not being watched. Excuses can be given or justifications may have already been provided to serve as evidence if eventually the wrong is uncovered. But I beg to say that warning signals of an impending danger, evil or pain which may occur if you decide to be lured are made available to each of us at every given time if we are truly observant.  The warning signals are wrapped up in the emotion of fear, if you like you may call it that ‘inner caution’ but it is fear all the same.  The threat at this point may not be real but it is imagined and if it falls under Nos.1 then you can take it to the bank because you will know that you know that you know (×100%) that harm will come your way if you don’t allow fear to guide you in the positive light.

So Let us now look at the example of a fire.  Fire has its good side and has its bad side. Fire burns no doubt but fire also refines. While the refiner is pleased to put a piece of metal into fire to refine it, the refiner will be the first to run away from the fire if he calculates that an explosion is about to take place which would burn his dear skin. This is because fire is not meant for the skin. It will burn...fire burns and it will disfigure you! Ok so you are in a situation where you have been given information from your spirit that an impending danger is approaching and your spirit tells you it is one that would burn you and fear rises in you. Do you run or do you talk faith?

The positive side of fear says run....







...there is always a better way

Wednesday, 13 June 2012

write...

Vision is to be written down so anyone who reads it can run with it including the writer when he eventually forgets. You can translate this principle to a 'to do' list. Most times we have things we intend to finalise for the day, month or year but we fail to achieve them because they are not written down.

When you write thoughts down you easily see the flaws in them. Assessing your motives /rationale behind your thoughts is one thing a pen and paper would do for you.


 Write those thoughts down !NOW...

...there is always a better way to do what you think you have become a master of

Tuesday, 17 April 2012

Just my thots for this present minute!

Strive to be better than you were yesterday!

Remember people are drawn towards genuine love and affection. Even the most stubborn person in the world has someone he or she listens to. Ask why?

All bosses require much more from their subordinates than they are willing to pay for and most times they get it. Either way be indispensable so you can at least negotiate a better pay when the need arises.

No matter how hard you strive to please a boss they want more! more! more! It is called the Oliver syndrome by my humble self

Wives please don't give yourself a justified reason not to take care of yourself. Remember your husband is more of a physical being than you are, emmm so please look good. You will thank me some day!

Men are drawn to confident women who equally know when to be silent and yet maintain their stand.

No man wants a woman who cant think for herself. Have a mind of your own O WOMAN! however the trick is to know when to be either aggressive, assertive or submissive!.

Have you ever considered the fact that once you don't talk as much you are perceived as smart! Lesson No 1 to one who has my kind of temperament.

All you bring out of yourself is what has already been deposited be it consciously or otherwise. Now the question is who did the depositing?

Never mistake one's silence to mean a particular thing for people keep silent for various reasons e.g 'I have nothing to say actually', ' I think my breath is funny right at this moment', 'hmmm...if only he/she knew', 'I like the way he talks...I have no clue what he is saying but he sure sounds good'

However you look at it Family comes first. You may affect the lives of the people of the world but if you cant touch the lives of those closest to you then...I stand corrected.

Looking and smelling good isn't as expensive as you think! Choose to and you would find cheaper ways to achieve your goal.

The moment you no longer find fulfilment in what you do, something is definitely wrong. Cheer up! you can fix it still. For example, if it is your job quit!ha ha ha just kidding. All I know is you can either quit and move somewhere else where you can find expression or you remain and stay miserable while you constantly complain. It is your choice after all. Nevertheless if you decide to stay you can still find fulfilment if you change your perspective. So how do you now see your job?

Now the immediate preceding statement I made is not in reference to Marriage. No quiting at all....Both of you should work it out. Note I said 'should' and not 'must' and this is because it takes two to tango! You feel me?

Yes I said it ... I am pleased to be ME. ARE YOU?




...there is always a better way

Thursday, 23 February 2012

Words=YOU

Your words are YOU. YOU and your words are one. Let your words be true that people may take it to the bank.

Especially to your loved ones, let your words be true, yes they have no choice but to love you irrespective but your words may start to mean nothing to them. Trust is earned, your words are YOU!
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Sunday, 29 January 2012

What to do when you don't know what to do

Ok! So what do you do in a confusing situation? Most times irrational actions are done and believe me it never turns out to be good. I am of the opinion that in the above situation all you should do is stand still, be calm,observe carefully and clarity would swoop upon you.

Ok! So what do you then do in a scary situation? Most times doubt is the first thing that comes out of our mouths, but the truth is the moment we speak positively and speak faith, fear has no other option but to leave.

Right! So what do you in a terrifying situation? Look at the scary situation....

Emmm ...what do you do in a situation of lack? It is simple.. GIVE!. Giving is the key to receiving. You may think you don't have anything to give but that is because you have refused to see what you have as a seed. So my point is no matter how in lack you think you are in, you will always have seed in your hands to sow into fertile ground and it is only a matter of time....roses will bloom again.


So what do then do in a challenging situation? Draw on the strength you have from within and from above. Allow genuine friends and family show you love and attention 'cos God knows you will need every bit of it.

So what do you do in a tiring situation? Sleep!

But what if I don't want to sleep?... Then you are on your own.

...there is always a better way

Friday, 13 January 2012

FUEL SUBSIDY BATTLE

Hi everyone. I got the below message as a broadcast on my BB. As some may have heard Nigeria is facing a major strike due to the removal of our fuel subsidy that Nigerians enjoy by our own president. A lot have been said and am so tired of talking but do read the below if you are a Nigerian and if you are not please pray for my country. Thanks


As we all pray and as We continue to profess restoration for our country, Let us remember to ask God for forgiveness too ...
...For it is written, Thou shall not speak evil of the ruler of thy people. Act 23:5
Two wrongs will never make a right &wisdom is profitable 2direct.
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He suffered no man to do them wrong: yea, he reproved kings for their sakes. Saying, touch not mine anointed, and do my prophets no harm. Ps.105:14-15
(God is not asleep)

God forbid us from speaking evil of our leaders . Please do not join people to abuse the president or any of our leaders, it is against the word of God.

Remember the story of King Saul!
We are instructed to pray for the peace of our country Nigeria, that is the only way we can have peace. God will answer!

Curses are an empowerment to fail. GEJ has been cursed so much in the past week. He cannot be expected to make any meaningful decisions thru this.
In the same vein, blessings are an empowerment to succeed. Let's bless our president and our country.

So many have been guilty of insulting him too. Let's be watchful of the things we say. Nothing is taken for granted in the spiritual realm, neither jokes nor things said carelessly.

Remember, d Word of God on our lips is God speaking. So speak peace upon Nigeria &Wisdom 4those in authority. D future of our Nation is dependent on d right words spoken by us. Regardless of how u feel pls do d right thing by speaking d right words.
God bless u, Shallom.
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Wednesday, 11 January 2012

Be angry! NOT...yes?...no?

Be angry but do not sin says the scriptures. Anger has its place. In fact I never knew I could experience such anger.... But it is about channelling it the right way. Anger can eat you up, can make you bitter, can make you a slave to the object of your anger. So my dearest angela, channel your anger right!

You do not want to be sick, bitter, and ugly. Have u seen a sick , bitter and ugly slave??? Hmmmm not a good sight at all. Rise above your anger! You are more than a slave, you are a free moral agent. So choose to rise above your anger and channel it right. Selah

Riversongs wrote...

Your unique potential cannot be unleashed fully while you are focused primarily on rehearsing, remembering, and repeating your past. This makes you "past-oriented". Stop the habit of memorizing your personal history. It makes you narrow in your focus of what you see in life, and perceive about yourself, and negatively impacts your true worth and value. Cast your vision like a net on your greatest potential: towards your future destiny.

Change the way you think and you will drastically change your outcomes!

Jon!
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Wednesday, 4 January 2012

AIGH

I want to be an inspiration to many
I want to be a source of joy to many
I want to better the lives of people

I want to establish and empower people
I want to create an avenue where great minds can discuss and come up with solutions
I want to be the founder of a great institution where every good thing is a possibility


Guess what it starts NOW!  emmmmmm we are waiting for YOU
tick tick tick!!!

PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT

Life is wonderful.  It depends on how you see it and the perspective in which you stand to view. Life is wonderful because it is made up of various kinds of people. Life comes with beautiful, ugly, nasty, wicked, lovely, courageous, funny, foolish, silly, kind, wonderful and sad people!...I am sure you can think of variations not mentioned above.

Life is wonderful because a kind person can in one minute be kind; the next minute is foolish, the next minute be silly and finally settle back to his or her kind self. I am saying this because I have met people with funny characters especially at my working environment. It would take a lot to try and deal with some types of people but it is possible.

What is imperative is understanding what you want from a person and understanding boundaries that have been placed which you must respect about every individual. This is because you do not know what people have been through all their lives and the issues they are presently dealing with making them the way they are now. Try and put yourself in the other person's shoes once in a while and you may appreciate why they have turned out as nasty or as wicked as they are now. People may have been taken for granted, treated harshly, been disappointed several times, or may have been abused for such a long while that they turned out as nasty as they are now. If you put yourself in their shoes it may be easy to deal with them and with love in your heart.

Now don’t get me wrong I am one person who believes you should not allow the issues of life affect you negatively that you now become repulsive or a terror to others around you. I don’t believe you should become so ugly in character and personality just because of what life has thrown at you. Instead it is possible to still radiate dignity, poise, beauty and still remain a person everyone would like to be in contact with irrespective of your history.

The next thing to do is determine why you are where you are with that same ‘nasty’ person and for how long you would need to be in constant contact with that person. If you are clear about your priorities you will readily ignore a lot and not let certain things bother you as such. If however you are the ‘nasty’ person do take note that it is just a matter of time….life will throw more your way that would keep you in that state…what goes around comes around! You can’t eat your cake and have it..whatever you sow you reap!



...remember there is always a better way