Walls have ears.
Trust is earned and respect too
You may deserve to have something but not everything is expedient.
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A heart felt SMS to a couple expecting a baby.....

Am sure by now you guys are counting days. Am so happy for you both .
Please try and be there for eachother as often as possible. With a child coming in, it's not a matter of who is right or wrong it's a matter of working hand in hand for the good of your child. You guys are a team. In all you do know that your life is about to change but don't fret.
Please always talk to eachother. Whenever you feel neglected communicate this to one another. Don't let yourself go. Be there for yourselves.A Couple's Guide to Communication

Where to ?

Be careful how you treat others. It's a matter of time and soon they will eventually be in a position you never envisaged.

You are one with your words so endeavor to weight your conversation before speaking. Often I play( in my head )possible ways a conversation would go before I start what I can't finish. Try it !

Never think you know it all. You can learn even from a new born babe. My daughter is presently teaching me how to be a mother. Certainly I'll be better when her other siblings come along. Take the hint! You can learn from a cow too!

'Go where you are celebrated'... so my husband says to me. Listen to me people gravitate towards warmth and affection so learn to celebrate people irrespective of their class in society maybe that way you 'll make friends or better still loyalists.

Only a fool refuses corrections. If you are corrected (never always pleasant and may hurt our pride or ego ) thank heavens for the opportunity eventually the fool gets caught in his web. You for one would have saved yourself.
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Breathe.......

Consider breathing for once.
Consider breathing to calm yourself
Just breathe.
I said breathe, it does work!


When you breathe you concentrate on your thoughts
That is why when you breathe you don't talk
When you are not talking I do hope you are thinking
And while thinking I do hope your eyes are opened to make observations
In observing we read body language...emmm I hope you 've not stopped thinking.

You see, if you talk as much try cutting down what you say and think twice as much as you talked....
Did it work?
Were you able to achieve more?
Often times our expression alone speaks louder than we can ever say
Eventually the message is passed across without the damaging effect of the tongue


Now don't get me wrong, there is a time for everything.
The trick is to know when to talk and to know when to breathe.
Choose wisely......


..there is always a better way

what if ?

If we only take a moment to be quiet and observe the things around us.

If we only decide not to complain but learn from every given situation.

If we only understand everyone has their opinion and would like it to be appreciated.

if only we maintain a good attitude towards life we will eventually see the positive and not the negative each time we look into the mirror.

If we only say 'am sorry', 'I love you deeply','thank you', 'forgive me'. 'Please' the response we receive may be different.

WHAT IF?
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Dozzzzzzzzzinggg off

I have always been one to think all sorts. One of my favorite moments when I was much younger were my afternoon naps where I would go into dream world and dream. I loved it because I was usually aware of my environment and so wasn't totally deep in sleep when I would decide on what to dream about. I loved it because I was in control of all the actors in my dream. I could decide on the scenarios, delete any part I wanted, kill any actor!, kiss any celebrity(emmm yaaa!), become friends with presidents and in return be rewarded with a ministerial position(yipee!)... This would play until I fell deep into sleep. What a beautiful thing.

I would wake each time feeling sad because I would wish and wish all this were true. For me those times were my "escape from reality" moments. Whenever I wanted to be happy I would sleep and dream it!..I mean can you imagine that? Whenever I felt let down or discouraged..SLEEP. When someone upset me depending on my level of anger I would either make peace or beat the person to my satisfaction...WHERE?...yes in my SLEEP..lol. Well, gone are those days. Although it has it's advantages, let's see one disadvantage.

You can't wish anything to being. It's like window shopping; creating an appetite but not having what you see as yours. Wishing has its place. I guess when we wish for things it shows we can see a different side of a coin and want it to be ours assuming what we see is positive.

But don't stop there! Do you realize you can actually get what you want! Now am not talking about kissing denzel Washington or Eva Longoria cos they are both married among other reasons, am also not talking of killing someone to satisfy your thirst for vengeance cos you will go to jail or face capital punishment. I am talking of going out of your comfort zone and passivity to get what you want.

Do you want a better relationship with your loved ones? To be respected by others? To be more thoughtful and caring to others? To stop bad habits that has eaten into the happiness of your home and life? Do you want to be better at communicating? To constructively correct and not criticize those you have authority over?To watch your eating habits cos it's telling on your health?.....the list goes on. DON'T SLEEP AND IMAGINE IT ALL THEN WAKE WISHING FOR THE POSSIBILITY OF IT ACTUALLY HAPPENING. As long as beggars continue to beg and wish for things yet never get the chance to enjoy them, the same will happen to you. You will go through life never riding that horse.

Listen to me... A horse signifies strength. Only trained riders get on a horse and ride well. If you want to get on that horse you have to train yourself and training is an ACTIVE PLAY not a PASSIVE PLAY. In training ourselves we no longer need to wish instead we begin to see our dreams come to play because we have submitted ourselves to learn the ways to achieve what we dream of. Emmmmmm I didn't say it would be easy but I assure you one thing and I can bet you 100 bucks.....YOU WILL RIDE THAT HORSE!!!!!

It's not about you...it's about you :-)

'What about me' ?! ...The general thing people say or don't say but think of and act upon depending on temperament type when they clash with others .

'How come I have to be the first to make the right move'?

' I need not come across as easy'

'I need to show that am a "No nonsense kinda person" !'

hmmmm familiar? Well I had my fair share of the above and ooooh how I struggled.
Simply put , the moment you stop thinking about yourself it becomes easier to see things from the other person 's perspective.

It really isn't about you... Then again it eventually turns out to be about you when issues are resolved or not resolved. You either find yourself hurting or you find yourself at peace. Now do you see why its about YOU?

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